Saturday, October 16, 2010
Sundays in the fall are made for football, and when you lived with a bunch of dudes you probably spent the whole day in front of the TV, eating junk food and drinking beer. You could relax and have some fun before the start of another week. But once you live with your girlfriend, things will be a little tense. You’ll try to watch some football, but who can relax when your girlfriend is so angry with her fantasy football team that she yells at the TV like Marques Colston can hear her through it?
When you were single, you were free to go out with the boys any time you wanted. But once you’re living under the same roof it will seem like you should check in with her, like you need her permission. So you will ask if it’s OK to go out with the guys all night, and she’ll say, “Sure, of course.” And that will effectively call your bluff because mostly you’ll just want to stay at home and read until you get sleepy and then cuddle up in a warm bed.
Girls love shopping. Anything is an excuse to buy a new outfit. She used to do this on her own, but now you’re going to be there and you’ll get stuck buying a couple of new shirts that you need for your new office job. You’ll be too lazy to do it on your own but she will look up this store that has nice clothes at reasonable prices and find something in your size while you shuffle morosely through the racks of clothes.
You and your buddies used to drink beer all night long. Start at somebody’s apartment, pound a few cold ones, then hit up a bar and keep that train rolling, pint after pint. Her? She doesn’t even drink beer. Instead, the two of you will drink wine at lunch, and then when you propose filling an old, plastic ginger ale bottle with white wine and walking around the city drinking it, so that you save money on a bar tab, she’ll just say, “Oh, yeah, great idea!” Then the two of you will do that, and wonder why anybody wants to hole away in a dark bar when they could just keep strolling along.
And it doesn’t just change how you spend all your free time, it affects your work, too. Jobs and money are absolute minefields in any relationship, and it only gets worse when the two of you start splitting rent. Say the slightest thing about how you’re not sure you’re at the right job, or you think maybe you should switch careers, and she will just start in. Sometimes all you’ll have to do is let out a sigh and your girl will be like, “You have to do what you want to do, whatever makes you happy. You’re so talented, you should really go for it, even if it means getting a different job that doesn’t pay as well, going back to school, or taking some time off. Keep at it, even if it takes a while, we’re in this together.” I mean, am I right, fellas?
Saturday, July 10, 2010
Months earlier I had bought a DVD of an animation aimed at kids that someone was selling on the subway. That man’s voice had a teacherish sort of lilt and he sounded like Del the Funky Homosapien. (The author I saw today had a very unmemorable sort of voice.) When I bought the animation I thought about the story I could tell people about the idiosyncratic but charming animation I bought on the subway, but when I watched it the sound didn’t sync with the picture and I only lasted a few minutes.
I didn’t hear what the book of fiction was titled. I was reading my own book and was sure not to look up because I didn’t want to talk to the man. He said you could find him online and order his books through Facebook, MySpace, and Twitter but that sometimes readers wanted a signed copy of his books and that’s why he came on the subway. He explained that his book of poetry consisted of quotes, haikus, and Facebook status updates. He read a few of his Facebook status updates: “Poor people buy the most expensive clothes, rich people get them for free.” I forget the other examples but they had the same tone of a moralistic stand-up comedian. I don’t know what the books cost, and I didn’t give him any money. I felt silly covertly listening and tried to focus on my book.
I was reading David Lipsky’s book-length interview with David Foster Wallace, Although of Course You End Up Becoming Yourself. I was at a part when Wallace was talking about how he had reached a place of emotional stability at which he did things for the work and not for the money or associated fame. Earlier in the day I had read something on The Rumpus by Elissa Bassist about writing to get paid; to get paid didn’t require writing according to someone else’s dictates, it required writing so well that you produced something valuable enough that people would pay for it. I thought about my job and how it paid and the things I wrote for it and the things I bought with what it paid me. I thought about my job and how it might not pay me enough for the privilege of renting my brain for eight hours and owning all that it could produce in that time.
I thought about how I joined Twitter, Facebook, and LinkedIn—not MySpace, though, unlike the author hawking his books on my car on the A train—when I decided to leave graduate school just in case the journalistic trend stories I read were true and I could get a job through Twitter, Facebook, or LinkedIn. I thought about my efforts at writing and how I didn’t even have self-published books that I could try to sell on the subway and make people feel uncomfortable, and how instead I was reading a book that was a conversation between two writers talking mostly about writing.
I thought about the person on my car on the A train just a few minutes earlier who had asked for help to buy a pair of dress shoes for his first day at work as a secretary’s assistant the next day. If he didn’t get a pair of dress shoes, he said, he couldn’t keep the job. He said we could call his future boss if we didn't believe his story. He told us the phone number. He had $17 and he needed $35 to get the shoes at Payless. I had thought about giving him $20 and getting him to his goal, but I didn’t give him any money, either.
Thursday, April 1, 2010
- BBC News
The dog was in the prisoner’s face, barking, so close he could feel the warmth of its breath. More than the noise, or the worry that the dog would be let loose and its teeth would be able to reach his face rather than snap closed just short of it, it was the heat and smell of the dog’s breath that tormented him. It would have made him wake up screaming if he had been allowed to sleep, which he wasn’t, because he was forced to stand for 12 hours at a time, even longer than Donald Rumsfeld on a typical work day. During those hours he took solace in the fact that for one hour each day he was provided with a laptop equipped with high-speed wi-fi connectivity, and he watched YouTube videos of pop stars in his native country and caught up on Andrew Sullivan’s blog.
She walked around in a daze for weeks after they were executed. It seemed like an absurd overreach, killing someone for voicing political opposition—wouldn’t this spark an international backlash?—but then she noted how scared she was, and realized their tactics were working. Unable to sleep at night, she browsed Tumblr for humorous photo collage blogs and commented on Gawker.
New York City, 2010
Little Billy couldn’t quite put his finger on it, but something was wrong. Little Billy was in the third grade and couldn’t read, but he did his best to watch the news on TV every night, at least until his mom changed the channel. When he watched the news he tried to remember every word so that when kids at school called him dumb he could tell them facts about protests in Iran or violence in Nigeria that they, for the most part, didn’t know. Little Billy got his turn at the classroom’s computer as part of the school’s new emphasis on “media literacy,” just like everybody else, but when he clicked on Wikipedia pages—bookmarked on the classroom computer—he did so mostly at random and scanned resulting pages for images.
A man with a machete kicked down her door and slashed her youngest son. He and another man subdued her with a fishing net and dragged her out the door. She knew the pattern such violence took and that she would end up in the same fire as the others, removed from her limbs the same way as the others, and wondered if that would be better than living with the memory. Before she joined the fire, though, the men took her to an internet cafe where she logged into Twitter—using TweetDeck so that URLs were auto-shortened to bit.ly links—and tweeted "pls send help b4 it's 2 l8" and included a link to a CNN article that gave Westerners the relevant background on the massacre. Her tweet used far less than 140 characters to allow for easy retweeting (usernames take up space, after all) and for users to add additional comments, like “OMG I just gave $10, did you?”
Thursday, February 25, 2010
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
I am currently reading Letters Home: Correspondence 1950-1963, which is Sylvia Plath’s letters to her family. The book was edited by and included commentary from Aurelia Schober Plath (Sylvia’s mother). So far I think the book is wonderful. Sylvia’s childhood relationship with her mother is something I hope to mimic when I have a child. I am a fairly skeptical person and would think that her mother exaggerated about their connection if it wasn’t for the 696 letters that Sylvia wrote to her family over thirteen years.
I am not sure what I expected to find when I began this book, but I was taken aback by some of Sylvia’s early writings. When Sylvia was fourteen she wrote a poem, titled “I Thought That I Could Not Be Hurt.” Below are the first three stanzas.
I thought that I could not be hurt;
I thought that I must surely be
impervious to suffering—
immune to mental pain
My world was warm with April sun
my thoughts were spangled green and gold
my soul filled up with joy, yet felt
the sharp, sweet pain that only joy
My spirit soared above the gulls
that, swooping breathlessly so high
o’erhead, now seem to brush their whir-
ring wings against the blue roof of
the sky. (Letters Home, 33)
Despite the poem’s foreboding title, its heartbreaking implications, and its sad conclusion about the frailty of the human heart, I was moved by how she wrote about how much joy she had experienced and how much joy she could experience. When I was fourteen I could not have written articulately about happiness and the subsequent disappointment that it could bring. I do not think I fully comprehended what happiness was, however fleeting the experience might have been. I can’t even look back at my childhood or adolescent years and pick out moments when I thought, “Yes that was it. At that moment I was happy.”
One of the more poignant pieces included in Letters Home is “Diary Supplement,” written when Plath was just seventeen. It was this small diary entry that made me yearn to be seventeen again.
An excerpt from “Diary Supplement” (November 13, 1949):
As of today I have decided to keep a diary again–just a place where I can write my thoughts and opinions when I have a moment. Somehow I have to keep and hold the rapture of being seventeen. Every day is so precious I feel infinitely sad at the thought of all this time melting farther and farther away from me as I grow older. Now, now is the perfect time of my life.
In reflecting back upon these last sixteen years, I can see tragedies and happiness, all relative–all unimportant now–fit only to smile upon a bit mistily.
I still do not know myself. Perhaps I never will. But I feel free – unbound by responsibility, I still can come up to my own private room, with my drawings hanging on the walls...and pictures pinned up over my bureau. It is a room suited to me – tailored, uncluttered and peaceful...I love the quiet lines of the furniture, the two bookcases filled with poetry books and fairy tales saved from childhood.
At the present moment I am very happy, sitting at my desk, looking out at the bare trees around the house across the street... Always want to be an observer. I want to be affected by life deeply, but never so blinded that I cannot see my share of existence in a wry, humorous light and mock myself as I mock others. (39-40)
I am amazed that at seventeen Sylvia new what it meant to have Virginia Woolf’s “a room of one’s own.” And how self-aware she was of the beauty of youth. Sylvia’s diary entry also made me aware of something “romantic” about me when I was seventeen: I wrote a lot. I wrote poems, short stories, and plays. I outlined book ideas and dreamed of creating a zine with my childhood friend. I created lots of characters with pretentious name. I wasn’t afraid to write. I didn’t worry that someone would judge me based on my writing. Like Sylvia, I wrote because I had to.
I feel fortunate to realize that right now “is the perfect time of my life.” I am happy with who I am now, who I love, what I feel, and how I think. I am thirty, the age of Sylvia when she committed suicide.
Thursday, February 11, 2010
Explosions tell the truth by eliminating layers of signifiers and exposing a creamy gooey filling that we wouldn’t normally see. Explosions reveal reality to be an ever changing smattering of disconnected fragments.
Explosions show us how things work, how things fall apart and how people respond to unexpected disruption of physical constants.
Explosions help us learn how dogs feel about fireworks. Explosions show us that all structures are temporary. Explosions show us how innovative insurgents can be. Explosions make us nervous. Explosions make movies more fun and make us feel excited. Explosions make us sad. Explosions teach us to be cautious when opening a new bottle of seltzer. Explosions make world supers powers feel really strong and really insecure.
Explosions revel who we are, where we live and what is important to us.
Sunday, January 31, 2010
I want to be in a band. People in bands meet girls, except now I have a girlfriend that I like so I’m not really interested in meeting girls but still I want to be in a band.
People in bands get to tell people they’re in bands and think about maybe quitting their job and just being in a band. “Just being in a band” is the goal of people in bands. Maybe television appearances, too, as long as it’s still “for the music.” So people in bands have goals, which is good.
People in bands always have an activity to do, even on weekends, and get to turn down invitations because they want to work on their music. Or do they have to work on their music? It’s hard to say, but it seems like something that requires a lot of time and would also be difficult to schedule because they have to feel inspired. People in bands feel inspired periodically and when they’re inspired they can turn down invitations and not even hurt the feelings of the people whose invitations they turn down.
If I were in a band I would be one of the people who tries to do something else creative, too, so I wasn’t just a person in a band. I would tell you I was in a band and then you would think I was creative so maybe you would also look at my drawings or my poems. And even if they weren’t that good I would still be a person who was not only in a band but also drew or wrote poems. I would be an artist, and I want to be an artist because anytime artists do anything there is a party.
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
I can’t quit smoking now, I got things to do, meaning to find. This week I am searching for meaning by building a scale model of an Apatosaurus skeleton using peanut butter and jelly sandwich crusts. Attempting to construct meaning through this process requires cigarettes. Meaning usually best perceived through a cloud of smoke and a glass (half full) of Jim Beam.
My mom is worried about how much I smoke. Some people smoke less around family, not me, I am honest. Maybe too honest, as I often announce “I am gonna go upsairs and jack off, no one bug me.” and “Mom, can I have some of these pain pills? I am bored.” I smoke more around my mom, because I know she loves me and accepts me, and if she gives me a hard time about smoking I can always dangle the “well, maybe I won’t come home for Christmas” threat in front of her. It’s easier that way.
My family is not like other families, my family is awesome. Not “own a boat awesome,” but awesome “like friends awesome.” Generally a supportive environment, except when my mom accuses my brother and me of taking too big of bong hits, “That’s too much, you boys don’t need to do that, Jesus, that was huge!” One Christmas her boyfriend (ex-boy friend now) gave us hallucinogenic mushrooms. My mom lets us open his gift early, something she is usually opposed to—opening Christmas gifts early. She said she didn’t want us acting “weird” on Christmas, drunk is okay, but not “weird.”
She has often warned us against, “showing up all fucked up” to family events. It’s like, please mother I am 28, I will get as fucked up as I want before I visit great Aunt Ester. Great Aunt Ester is 90 percent deaf anyway, so during visits I occasionally say fuck or shit just to see my moms eyes bug out. I’m an adult, so don’t fuck with me, I love you Mom, and I stole those muscle relaxers you needed for your back.
One New Years Eve day, my mom claimed that the following year she had drank a case of champagne. Oh yeah, real fast, don’t go thinking my mom is some fat, low energy drunk, my mom is a fox, she is 56 years old and has a six-pack, I bet your girl or boy friend doesn’t even have a six-pack. My mom works at a job she hates 10 hours a day, works out 5 times a week and eats cottage cheese like it doesn’t cause constipation. She has got an awesome attitude and makes Christmas ornaments like a fucking elf on adderall.
Okay, but she claims to have drank a whole case of champagne last new years eve—bullshit! My brother and I called bullshit, and then proved her wrong by attempting to drink a case of champagne each. We were drunk, very drunk, by 4:00 pm and still had about 16 bottles of champagne to finish. We punched each other bloody that night and laughed our asses off the whole time. My mom warned us about “getting all fucked up” but we didn’t puke in her car, so she was very happy. I am glad I never follow through with my New Years resolutions, because earlier that night I announced that my New Years resolution was to “barf all over the fuckin’ place.”
My brother has high blood pressure. Maybe high blood pressure runs in my family, my mom says it does (on my dad’s side of the family, the Irish side, the drunk side). Maybe my brother has high blood pressure because he does 400 dollars worth of cocaine a month. Maybe it is because he is a diesel mechanic in Fairbanks, Alaska. Maybe he has high blood pressure because he finds meaning and purpose by driving things too fast, breaking those things and then spending the week fixing that thing so it goes even faster, helping him approach death 20 mph faster. Maybe he is too good at arm wrestling. Maybe his food pyramid is in the shape of a 7-11 sign, which is more like a compressed burrito. Which is most like his large intestine. Maybe.
High blood pressure is a problem that runs in my family, but I run from family problems.
So I think it is safe to assume that I am immune to high blood pressure.
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